How We Work

We are comprehensive.
The first step to getting your baby is to find a birthmother who wants to place her baby for adoption. We do extensive advertising looking for such women. But there is more to finding a birthmother than just finding someone who says they want to do an adoption. We get numerous phone calls each day from women who say they are interested in adoption. They are motivated by many different reasons, often very complex reasons. We do our best to screen out those who are sincere from those who are not. We use a profiling system based on our experience over the years, and we have become very good at this. While we will work with any birthmother who says she wants to do adoption, we will not always work with them on their own terms. Some cases appear to be too high risk–it is not fair to the adoptive parents to put forth large sums of money into living expenses when experience has shown that the birthmother has only a small likelihood of following through with her adoption plan.

We require all birthmothers to prove they are pregnant. They will send us verification or we may do a three-way call with her doctor. We like to get medical paperwork but few doctors readily cooperate and almost no clinic will. A local agency or attorney will have more luck with this than we will. The birthmother then fills out a preliminary intake. This gives us the basics of the situation. It also helps us screen out girls that don’t know their own mind or that might be scammers. Birthmothers that cooperate to this point we consider very serious. We then review the paperwork looking for red flags in the case. Usually we will come back with a couple of questions for the birthmother to answer--to clarify an issue or two. If things still look good, we consider her ready to match

Our Matching Process.
Unlike many professionals we do not always match by sending a birthmother a batch of profiles. Instead, we look at what each birthmother wants in the adoptive couple that will raise her baby. She may be specific with regard to age, religion,. income, etc. We then search through our files and talk to the agencies and attorneys that regularly refer families to us. We also look for intangibles, like the excitement level of the adoptive couple, that often make or break an adoption. For experience we have found it’s best if the right family is matched with the right birthmother. We do not give her a bunch of profiles unless the birthmother specifically asks for them. We do not encourage this. Instead, we talk to her about one or two adoptive families at a time steering her toward the couple we think will work best with her. Most of the time we are right.

Conference call.
Next, we talk to each party about the other party. We want each to feel comfortable with what the other has to offer before the conference call. At this point, the adoptive couple should have seen the birthmother’s paperwork, have a good idea of the estimated cost of the adoption, and be aware of her general adoption plan. We want prospective adoptive parents to be 95% committed before we put together a conference call. If they have questions for their attorney, they should get those answered before the conference call, not after. (It is important for adoptive parents to understand that if they decide not to work with a birthmother after talking with her and do not have a good reason, e.g. unexpected information comes up during the call, we will not work with them again.) We then set up a conference call between the adoptive couple and the birthmother. This is moderated by the birthmother’s case worker. The idea is to see if there is a sense of connection between the two parties. Usually there is and it’s a match.

A Match.
A match is when both parties agree to work with each other. If you’re an adoptive parent, it is important to remember that the ratio of adoptive parents looking to adopt and birthmothers willing to place is 20 : 1 One of the unwritten laws of adoption is “the birthmother rules.”

Other services.
We also provide counseling, consultation and networking services as a given situation requires and permits.. We do not charge for them and, therefore, we ask you to use them judiciously.